We consider the acceptance of people in small pleasures, dreams, emotions, living, education, even from job to marriage and every personal decision as proof. Tan always comes here and breaks what people will say?
There are often very interesting examples of how this thinking has a profound effect on our society. For example, in almost every home, regardless of social class, the drawing room (guest room) is kept the cleanest, including the most expensive and comfortable furniture in the whole house. The idea behind this is that guests will assess your financial status and what will people say if they do not meet the criteria set by them?
Similarly, the most expensive, beautiful and delicate utensils are always decorated in a glass cupboard and no householder is allowed to use them. However, housewives can happily use old plastic utensils. Whether you call it hospitality or miserliness, guests have the right to use something rare.
Clothing, shoes, jewelry, makeup are all examples of this behavior. From living conditions to children’s education, decisions are made according to social credentials beyond one’s means. The idea is that there should be expensive and private schools and what would people say if they don’t wear branded clothes?
Even pretense is probably somewhat harmless. Problems arise when the fear of what people say seems to be an obstacle to the progress of our loved ones. Such as how much is the education of the daughter and from which institution should it be obtained? The co-educational system is a source of controversy in many households because of the social pressure exerted by the daughter’s role and her ability to do what she says, what would people say if she studied with boys?
This pressure has different significance in different classes but it is found anyway. Fearing the ridicule of the people that they got married immediately after completing their education, why did they waste their parents’ money? Didn’t get married right away? Why not age? Who will look after the job at home after marriage? What good is an education if it doesn’t work? The interesting thing is that people will say what has been done, a significant increase in it is only by being a woman.
Similarly, when it comes to establishing a relationship, marriage in the family, marriage with the consent of the parents, marriage for the sake of seeing the grandson, marriage to celebrate an angry relative, etc. All this is done keeping in mind the fear of people saying something. No matter how many aspirations, priorities, thoughts and hobbies are crushed during this time, no one cares. All that matters is what people say
People’s opinions also have a profound effect on their personal lives. For example, different titles are assigned to men who are responsible for some of their own children’s affairs, from helping with household chores.
These are just some of the superficial examples, but the deeper you go, the more you realize that people’s opinions have become ingrained in our lives and that we consider the opinions of others to be a very important part of our lives. has taken.
We need to know who these people are, who keep saying something. Aren’t we the same people? Maybe our unwarranted criticism and intrusion into the personal lives of others is hurting someone and putting a young person’s dreams of moving forward to sleep forever?
Or aren’t we the ones who value the opinions of others so much that they become enemies of their own peace of mind? Aren’t we the ones who are busy seeking acceptance in the society by ignoring the happiness of their children? Just think! How much convenience can we share and achieve without interfering unnecessarily in the lives of others?